GRIEF

Grief is a natural and necessary reaction to a significant change or loss in our lives. Grief is first felt as numbness and an inability to accept the loss, followed by shock as the reality begins to penetrate. It is a healthy, human response to situations such as:

• the death of a family member or friend
• separation or divorce
• loss of a job
• illness
• injury or disability
• miscarriage
• children leaving home
• moving, and
• the loss of a dream or goal

The most intense period of grief usually lasts a month or two and then begins to lessen. On the average, the grieving process is usually over in six months to a year, but some reminder of the deceased, new losses or other stresses can reactivate it. It will take people different time frames to grieve.

Grieving is a necessary process for coming to terms with loss, and it must be recognized and supported by others. Grieving is an essential part of coping with any loss, whether it is a relationship, a major life role, or some other part of one's functioning.

There may be a period of great emotional distress, during which anxiety and longing alternate with depression and despair. Depression is a natural stage of grief. But be concerned if the depression doesn't begin to lift.

For more information on grief, contact a counselor at the BABBCENTER at 824.3772 or 800.458.1755.