ABUSE

Child Abuse

Child abuse is a major cause of concern in our society. Despite increased awareness of the problem, many children still suffer abuse at the hands of their parents and guardians. Many parents become frustrated and angry with their children, but most are able to deal with their anger and frustration without violence. Some, however, lack the skills for handling that anger constructively. When the emotions become overwhelming, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse of children may result.

There is evidence that many abusive parents were victims of child abuse themselves. As they begin to rear their own children, these parents may fall back into familiar patterns of abuse. These parents also tend to be emotionally isolated and unaware of what constitutes realistic child behavior. Alcohol and drug abuse can also be major factors in child abuse. Child abuse happens in families of all races, religions, social circles, and economic classes.

Help is available to both the parents and the children caught in an abusive family. It is important to report suspected cases of child abuse to the proper authorities so that the child may be removed from the dangerous environment. Usually the person reporting the abuse may remain anonymous. For parents who find themselves increasingly frustrated with their children, help is available through counseling, parenting classes and self-help groups such as Parents Anonymous.

Sexual Abuse

Unfortunately, incest, rape, and other forms of sexual abuse are fairly common. The abuser may be a family member, a friend, an acquaintance, or, less often, a stranger.

If you or someone you know has been or is being abused, you should report it immediately. Talk with a teacher, minister, or counselor and get their help. If you are in a sexually abusive situation, it may be hard to realize that you are not at fault and that no on deserves such treatment.

Sexual abuse destroys self-respect and self-esteem, making it difficult to get help. If you have been sexually abused, remember, it is not your fault. Many people have gone through the same experiences you have and help is available through support groups for those who have been sexually abused.

Spousal Abuse

Domestic violence is something that in the past was frequently ignored, but physical abuse of a spouse, more often of the wife, is now recognized as a social problem that is punishable by law. Wife or husband beatings are often serious assaults. Once the pattern is established, it's likely to happen repeatedly, with increasing violence each time.

People who stay in abusive relationships may feel ashamed, guilty, and fearful. They may be socially isolated and unable to support themselves financially. It's often very difficult for a battered spouse to ask for help.

But help is available. Police are receiving enhanced training in domestic violence issues and, in many communities, domestic violence laws have been strengthened.

If you are being abused, the first step is to admit it to yourself. Then, prepare to leave the situation by hiding money, car keys, and important documents somewhere safe and handy. Arrange for a place to go, such as a trusted relative's home, a social service agency, or an emergency shelter. If you are being attacked, call the police as soon as you can. Then leave the house and get medical help if needed. Over the long term, you may need support from friends or relatives and perhaps counseling to help you feel more powerful and in control of your life.

Call a child abuse hotline, rape crisis center, or professional counselor at the BABBCENTER at 824.3772 or 1.800.458.1755 for assistance or more information.